Let Yourself be Helped by Amanda Cartridge

Help is regularly sent our way but how often do we turn it down by saying “I’m OK”, “I can do it myself”, “no thanks”, “I can cope on my own”, or something similar. We miss an opportunity when we reject the help that is offered. The opportunity may be to connect with another person, to get a task done quicker to free up time for something more important, or even to receive a lesson that could change our lives.

Think about a gift that you have lovingly selected, purchased, wrapped up and given to a friend or loved one. Now, imagine offering that gift to the person and have them say “No thanks”, “I’m OK”, “I don’t need that”, or “I don’t accept gifts from others”. How do you feel? Rejected, unwanted, or unworthy? Your intentions were pure – you offered a gift with no strings attached – and yet your gift was rejected.

It feels the same for the person who offers you help with pure intentions. They have been denied the opportunity to connect with you, to do a good deed which they can be proud of, or to learn a key lesson that they needed to learn. Would you knowingly deny others this opportunity?

What’s the alternative? It’s easy … graciously accept their offer of help with “yes please”, “that would be great”, “I’d really like that”, or “Thank you so much”. The help that comes to us each day is all part of the universal plan to keep us on whatever growth path we are on. By graciously accepting the help that is sent our way, we are showing our gratitude and saying to the universe “Yes! Send me more of that please.”

CAUTION: Some offers of help do not come your way with pure intentions. They may be unwanted offers or may have strings attached to them. Often these offers will come from people you know well – family or long term friends – and you tend to know from experience that there are going to be things you have to do, or not do, based on the help that is given. You can then make a clear choice as to whether you will accept the help or not.